Twined Fragments is an ongoing collaboration
between authors Miriam Suzanne and
Each fragment is sparked by the previous,
as trans women of different generations
pass their memories back and forth,
reflecting on lives and transitions separated by aquarter-century.
Working through these fragments of reflection
lets us touch on moments and emotions
that are sometimes too painful to interrogate deeply.
In conversation, we do together what we could not alone.
The result leaves us with more questions than answers,
and we lovethat.
The Journal of Mennonite Writing
asked me to submit
for their queer issue.
I don’t identify as Mennonite,
but I did grow up in the church,
so I asked my friends what to write about.
They suggested the common question:
In a world without rigid gender roles,
would anyone need to betrans?
I shared an article about my impending surgery,
and a request for help –
both social and financial –
as I go through this.
I was embarrassed to ask,
and not sure what to expect,
but your response has been swift and overwhelming.
I can’t thank you enough,
but I’ll keeptrying.
Denver Health has started offering vaginoplasty
in addition to their other trans medical services.
While I’ve been on the waitlist
for various surgeons around the country,
Denver Health called me this week
to give me a date: September 10,
less than two monthsaway.
There’s a lot of language that gets thrown around,
but much of it comes loaded with
over-simplified baggage and misconceptions.
Here are a few that have been on my mind –
from gender identity to biological sex,
transition, passing, and visibility.
There are some questions that come up again and again
if you are trans.
A few of those questions are terrible,
but most of them are well-intentioned.
I’m lucky to have a supportive community around me,
so I thought I’d write down my most common answers
to help ease your stress about
getting it right,
and ease my stress about
answering the same questions over andover.